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Hey friends, welcome to the Uncommon Freedom Show, where we champion the values of faith, family, abundance and freedom. I'm your host, kevin Tinter, by myself, and today, after a seven-month break, we're kicking off a brand new series called the Uncommon man. If you've ever wondered what biblical manhood really looks like in the real world America 2025 and beyond, you're in the right place, so let's dive in. All right, so it has been over seven months since Beck and I recorded our last episode, and I am thrilled to be back. I would love to be doing this with my wife, becca, again, but we're still in the season where we just do not have the capacity to be recording episodes on our own. So I figured you know what. Let's simplify the video is much more attractive with my lovely wife in the podcast and since she's not here, there's no need to do video. So we're going to be audio for the foreseeable future, and we were in a season where we had a tremendous amount of life going on, specifically as parents. Over the last seven months, we have had to make some of the most challenging decisions, heart-wrenching decisions that we've ever had to make, some of the most challenging decisions, heart-wrenching decisions that we've ever had to make as parents and fortunately, things are going fairly well for us and for our kids. But we just had to pour a lot of emotion into our role as parents and we also had to reserve what little extra we had to be able to make the right decisions and to just take care of our health during a very stressful season. So some of you know a little bit more about what's going on. Some of you don't. I know that many of you are praying for us, and so I would ask that you continue to pray for us, for our kids, for wisdom, and what we have learned through this process is that many of you have shared your stories of prodigal children that have come back to the Lord and they are now doing amazing things, things that you thought were impossible during the wandering season of your child's life, and so that has been very encouraging for Becca and I, and we are clinging to that hope, clinging to your prayers and clinging to the promises of our God that he will finish the good work that was begun in our children. So that's where we're at, and one of my goals for 2025 was just.

Speaker 1: 2:47

God has put this concept of the uncommon man. Beck, and I love the concept of being uncommon, something that stands out, that is refreshing, that's good, that's different from normal. As Dave Ramsey says, debt is normal be weird. We like the concept of uncommon over weird, but the principle is essentially the same. Most people aren't really pursuing what is best and we want to be uncommon.

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And especially when you look at all the turmoil in our society really all the turmoil in the world I think a lot of it can be traced back to the lack of manhood, of biblical manhood, which to me truly is synonymous, and I just felt, like God's saying I want you to take this concept of uncommon man and get it out into the world. So that's what I'm going to do is for the next season. We're going to be doing a series of episodes called the Uncommon man and we're going to be talking about what healthy manhood looks like. I've been blessed to rub elbows with some incredible people and I want to let them share their insights with all of us so that we can become better people. Now, before you tune me out as a female, as a wife, a mother, maybe a single 20 something, and you're like, oh okay, I'm tuning out for the next session, I really want to encourage you that biblical manhood in your life will benefit you in many ways. If you're a wife, you understand that having a husband that practices biblical manhood is a benefit for you as a wife, as a father of your children.

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If you are a woman whose husband is struggling and maybe he doesn't have healthy community, I really want to encourage you to listen to this series and maybe even encourage him to listen. You can share this with him. And if you're younger, maybe you're a teenager or 20-something college student or in that age range and you're a man. And if you're younger, maybe you're a teenager or 20 something college student or in that age range and you're a man, well, you're going to learn a lot of things that I wish I knew when I was that young. And if you're a teenage or 20 something young female and you're thinking, okay, this is the least applicable to me, I really want to encourage you that if you listen to this series, you're going to find things that you're going to me. I really want to encourage you that if you listen to this series, you're going to find things that you're going to say okay, this is what I want in my future husband.

Speaker 1: 5:13

Okay, there's a huge trend of people waiting until they're later to get married and you know if that's what God has for you, that's one thing, but I really think for the majority of Americans, the longer you wait, the worse off you're going to be. There's tremendous benefit to getting married young. Now I caveat that with it's important to find the right person. Don't marry the person you think you can live with. Marry the person you know you can't live without and make sure you check out the in-law situation, because that has a huge impact on what your quality of life will be like. Don't, if you're or if you find an amazing woman that you feel like you can't live without and she's got a crazy mom or crazy dad, you might want to think twice. But um, but anyways, for those young ladies really want to encourage you that listening to a bunch of uncommon men talk will really help you craft what you want to find in your future husband. Also just want to say thank you to those of you who have been continuing to listen, continuing to download. There's a huge risk you take.

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We stopped at episode 98, and I was doing a little bit of research. It's about 5% to 10% of Basically. If you make it to episode 100, which our next episode will be 100, you're in the top 5% to 10% of podcasts from a longevity standpoint. The vast majority don't make it past episode three and so when we took a break at 98, honestly, a lot of my pride, my ego wanted to push through and just get two more out so we could get to 100. But that wasn't the right decision. But we're getting there. We knew we didn't want to quit, but I do appreciate those of you who have been continuing to listen. Every week I get an email with an update and, honestly, shocked that every single week there's people downloading our previous episodes. So I'm excited to be able to give you something new and fresh and feel free to send us comments. You know Becca is still a part of this. We're going to be discussing it, even if she's not on the episodes on a regular basis, but we do look forward to getting back in the saddle to record together again with some fresh new material. So let us know what types of things you would like to hear from the both of us. So let's talk about why am I doing this series. Why do it right now?

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So the reality is, I believe we have a crisis of masculinity in our culture. There's massive confusion, there's massive distortion about what masculinity looks like and we also have an epidemic of passivity when it comes to men. A lot of men are sitting by, you know. When it comes to parenting, they're not paying attention to what their kids are watching, what they're listening to, what they're doing, and passivity is absolutely A mistake. The world doesn't need less masculinity. What it needs is more of the right kind, and that is biblical manhood. Masculinity isn't toxic. What's toxic is sin. Masculinity is God-given See what the Bible says is God created man and women in his image. So the reality is masculinity is a characteristic of God and femininity is a characteristic of God. They're two distinct that make up the full representation of God. I'm not a theologian, but the reality is masculinity is something that God created and, like everything else, when through Satan, the influence of Satan, and through sin, we distort what God created, what he intended to be good, it becomes a horrible thing, it becomes a force of evil. And that's where we're at, because of, honestly, a lot of passivity, distortion and confusion. And that's where we're at because of, honestly, a lot of passivity, distortion and confusion.

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Masculinity is associated with a negative concept, when it should be something that in the minds of women, in the hearts of women, actually creates a huge sense of peace, a sense of relief. Because when a woman has a biblically masculine man in her life, she should know that she's protected, she's taken care of. I'm not saying that she's not able to take care of herself. My wife is incredibly capable, she's very independent. But I also know that she appreciates the fact that if someone breaks into our house after she wakes me up, I'm going to go take care of him. All right, I'm a deep sleeper, she's super light, so she's gonna have to wake me up. But there's no way in the world that I'm gonna let my wife be the one to have to go confront the bad guy, even though that's what we see on tv all the time. That's pathetic. Okay, biblical manhood is servant-hearted, it's strong, it's sacrificial, it's courageous and at the same time it's tender.

Speaker 1: 10:18

So my desire to address this topic of the uncommon man really comes out of a personal conviction and a personal experience. You see, I have been blessed by uncommon men in my life. Now it's time to showcase them. The first episode I'm super excited. I interview someone that I've talked about many times I've referred to him many times One of the most influential people in my life he was a pastor who really took me under his wing and mentored me about 13, 14 years ago has had a huge impact on so much of how I live my life today.

Speaker 1: 10:56

The concept of intentional living, of lifestyle design, comes from my close friend and mentor, jared Roth, and I'm really excited because he is going to be appropriately the first guest on our century episode, and I have so many other incredible friends. Some of them are, you know, big names that you know and other than others are people that you might not know. But just last night, beck and I were sitting at a dinner table with some friends. We only knew one, we only knew the couple that invited us, and we came home we said, boy, once again we feel like small fish in a very big pond and it can be a little uncomfortable at times, but we're literally sitting around the table with some couples that were maybe 5, 10, 20 years older than us and as blessed and as successful as Becca and I have been.

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Some of these people they're making tens of millions of dollars and they're incredibly wealthy and they're rubbing elbows with some of the top leaders of our country, top leaders in industry, and what I have learned is that when you're the smartest person in the room, you want to be very intentional to get yourself into a better room, and that's what Beck and I did last night. And that is the goal of the uncommon man is to help you rub elbows with men that are going to help bring you up right. The saying is a rising tide raises all ships. That's what this series is about, and whether you're a man, a woman, a boy or a girl, this series will help elevate you and raise you to that next level. Now let's talk about specifically this Uncommon man series. So we're going to feature men who have deeply influenced my life.

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I've say this over and over, and I think my awareness of this grows every single day at a deeper level, that everything good in my life is because of the people in my life, the connections I've made. You know the saying is your network is your net worth, and I don't mean that from a selfish. What can I get from its standpoint? And I don't mean that from a selfish, what can I get from it standpoint? But Becca and I, and specifically myself, my life is so incredibly rich, so incredibly rich because of the incredible friends that I have, people that I know care for me, that they have my back, they have my family's back, that if something happened to me, they would take care of my family. If something happened to Becca and I, I have a number of people that I know would step in to you know, in you know God forbid this scenario happen but would step in and take care of my family the way that I would.

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So I'm excited to for you guys to meet some of these incredible people. They're mentors, they're friends, they're brothers in Christ and maybe most importantly well, not most importantly, but very importantly they're men of action. None of these men are sitting around collecting a welfare paycheck or a disability paycheck Not that I realize there's circumstances where disability is appropriate but these are the types of guys that are out there. They want to maximize their impact, they want to reach their potential and they are passionate about making the world a better place. We're going to talk about fatherhood. We're going to talk about faith. We're going to talk about failure. We're going to talk about freedom, legacy industry, business sales, all kinds of stuff. We're also going to talk about cars, cigars, guns and guitars. All right, those are four of my favorite things from the stereotypical manly side of things, and we're going to include a little session in there asking people what are their favorite cars, cigars, guns and guitars. I'm excited about that. One Bottom line is these are men who live uncommon lives, not for the applause of the world, but for the glory of God, and I want to inspire you and yours to do the same.

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So, once again, who's this for husbands? This is going to encourage you, it's going to challenge you and it's going to sharpen you. Iron sharpens iron. You Iron sharpens iron. Every single man that I have on this show is going to be iron that will sharpen your blade. Now, does that mean that I agree with every single one of them on every topic of life? Absolutely not. I mean, my wife is my best friend, my absolute closest friend, and we agree on so many things, but there's some things that we don't agree on. So I think it's always foolish when we write someone off because we don't agree with them completely. I don't think there's anyone in the world that I would agree with them on about absolutely everything, and so we need to stop having the zero defect mentality, this cancel culture mentality. Chew the meat, spit out the bones. Learn what you can from every one of these guests, because I guarantee you every one of them has the ability to sharpen your blade.

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For young men, I want you to hear what it looks like to lead with integrity and grit. Grit is one of the most important factors that will help you be successful in life. For wives, I want you to be inspired to encourage and pray for the man in your life. It's very likely that if he is not living up to your expectations and that is a dangerous word if he is not living up to the model of Jesus Christ, what biblical manhood looks like? Jesus Christ, what biblical manhood looks like? I'd be willing to bet that he does not have biblically-minded men in his life. His influences are not practicing biblical manhood. So this will inspire you that, yes, there are biblical men out there. There are men who are leading their families and their marriages and loving their families and loving their wives with biblical manhood, and this might give you some ideas on how you can connect your husband to those types of men, because that is absolutely the biggest game changer in my life and for young women. This is going to help you set your sights on what real leadership and love looks like, bottom line.

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I'm really excited about this series because it's about legacy, it's about general generational transformation through godly men, and there is no political leader on the left or the right, red blue, doesn't matter there is no political leader that is going to be able to stop the direction that our culture and society is headed if we do not have a drastic resurgence in biblical manhood in this country. So I really want to encourage you to subscribe, if you're not already subscribed. I want you to share this episode. Please share it on social media, share it with your husband, share it with your friends, share it with your kids and then, if you could also leave us a review, that would be greatly appreciated.

Speaker 1: 18:17

Also, social media, tag someone that you think would benefit from hearing this episode or any future episode, and then ask I want to ask you who is the most uncommon man you know? Would you let us know? In my book, saying Someone is Uncommon, it is a huge compliment. So I'd love to hear from you who are some of the uncommon men in your lives. And then I want to remind you I'm super excited.

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I've been wondering for a long time looking forward to episode 100. And I am celebrating this episode with, like I said, a powerhouse guest, my longtime mentor and friend, dr Jared Roth, who is one of the wisest people I've ever met, and I'm just so blessed to have his influence in my life. So thank you for joining me on this first step back into the podcast saddle. I can't wait to bring you stories from men who've helped shape me, who might just challenge and inspire you too. If this episode sparked something in you, share it with a friend and don't miss episode 100. It's going to be one for the history books, friends, and until next time, pursue uncommon freedom and lead well. We'll see you next time.