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Our Son Austin's Take on Parenting, Potential, and Trust | Parenting with Purpose
Have you ever stopped to consider the insights and perspective your teenager might have on topics like trust and credibility? Well, we did just that!
We're excited to share a special episode with our almost 15-year-old son, Austin, who recently finished 8th grade. Bekah and Austin delve into Austin's unique qualities, favorite sports, and creative hobbies. We also hold an honest and heartfelt conversation about the struggles and blessings of parenting a teenager, and even reveal some of our own quirks as parents.
We discuss the teachings of Stephen Covey's book "The Speed of Trust" and how it can be applied to real-life situations. Join us as we openly explore the differences in our parenting style compared to his friends' parents and listen to the invaluable advice Austin has to offer.
Don't miss this special episode – it’s a unique opportunity to see the world through the eyes of a young, insightful, and driven young man.
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Welcome to the Uncommon Freedom Show. Our purpose is to equip and inspire you to reach your potential, maximize your impact and live a great life while you make the world a better place. I'm Becca, and I am hosting by myself today because I have a very special guest in-house today, actually, who lives at the house, so it's pretty easy. He is our middle son, austin. And Austin, you are almost 15 years old, you just finished and graduated eighth grade and you're moving into high school. So tell us about yourself real quick. What are some of your favorite things?
Speaker 2:Sports.
Speaker 1:Okay, specifically.
Speaker 2:Basketball and football.
Speaker 1:Okay, and you're also pretty creative, right, yeah, yeah. So what are some of your things that you enjoy doing from a creative standpoint?
Speaker 2:Drawing, drawing, that's it, that's it.
Speaker 1:Okay, what are you most looking forward to in the next year?
Speaker 2:More freedom.
Speaker 1:More freedom, spoken like a teenager, awesome. So we are wrapping up a parenting series and I asked you if we could chat for just a couple minutes. So one of the things I love about you is you have a lot of unique qualities besides just how God made you, but you have a strawberry blonde hair, ie a redhead, blue eyes and you are left-handed. So do you remember the percentage of people that are red-headed and left-handed?
Speaker 2:Zero one percent.
Speaker 1:Oh man, so you're in that really special category, so you have been really fun to parent up until last year, and then it's been a little bit challenging for both of us. But that's just the truth of the matter, right? So this is straight talk. Today You don't have to say anything that you think is like what I want to hear So straight from your brain. What do you think are some of the challenges of growing up in the Tinder household with dad and mom, your parents, dad and I as your parents?
Speaker 2:You guys are a lot different than most of my friends parents. How so You're more strict about technology and stuff.
Speaker 1:Okay, anything else.
Speaker 2:Lay it on me, I don't really know. I think that's mostly you guys are a lot more strict about technology.
Speaker 1:It's hard when you're a teenager, huh.
Speaker 2:Yeah, totally get it.
Speaker 1:Annoying. Yeah, fair enough. Yeah, this is a podcast, this is real life, so we're not here to say like we're amazing parents. I mean, if you want to say that, it's fine. Oops, i've never used those buttons before. I thought they would just turn off by themselves. That was way too long of a laughter for my pathetic joke. Exactly Okay, moving on. So if that is one of your most challenging things, what is? what do you think is one of the biggest advantages? blessings, and I want you to think not about things, but like just about having us as parents, not what we do, more like just having Kevin and Becca being stuck with us. What are some? what is a benefit? potentially?
Speaker 2:Mean. You guys are really. You guys are hard-working and so You guys have worked hard and you gave us that quality. So, even though you guys have a lot of money, you don't really spoil us per se, because we still have to work for pretty much all of it everything And we do get to do a lot of fun stuff because of that, but we're definitely not spoiled And you guys really love this.
Speaker 1:Are you sure about that?
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I was gonna hit another button, but then I would just be interrupting this podcast with too much of my attempt at humor Yeah, i do.
Speaker 1:I like to say that I really I love you guys pretty fiercely. Other than Jesus and dad. You guys are the most important people in the world to me, and even though it's really hard to be your parents at times, it's also really amazing and I'm grateful for it. So thanks for hanging in there with us, because we've never parented this age before, other than your brother, who's a couple years ahead of you. You guys are alike in some ways and different in some ways, and so it's hard to figure it out as we're going. Yeah, what advice would you give to dad and I to help you in the next couple years?
Speaker 2:I don't actually know. Good question, i really have no idea.
Speaker 1:Okay, well, you can come to me later if you do think of it. Dad always asks me questions I'm not ready for, so I get the fact that if you don't have time to think about it, sometimes something doesn't come to mind. Okay, since dad's not here, what is one of the most interesting things? Slash crazy things about your father, like if he had an idiosyncrasy or something that you might, you and your brothers might laugh at. Oh, with or without dad, and we don't want to be disrespectful, but what would it be?
Speaker 2:This is something me and Carson always just find kind of funny How he always licks stuff.
Speaker 1:What in the world does that mean? Like more details needed.
Speaker 2:There's like a tiny bit of peanut butter left, scrape it out like to spin with his long tongue.
Speaker 1:Okay, in our household it's waste, not want, not right, so we don't leave a crumb behind.
Speaker 2:Apparently That's something I mean Carson always laughs about.
Speaker 1:That is hilarious. You know I'm never gonna be able to watch him like off a knife or the lid of the yogurt container. Now again, without being You've not totally ruined it for me, okay. well, since I'm here and I did that to dad, what is the most Annoying or weird thing about me? and make sure whatever you share is something that I wouldn't mind Potentially thousands of people hearing it Oh. You're scrolling through the Rolodex, aren't you Like something there, do you? and Carson, talk about me You know what I'm doing.
Speaker 2:Stuff is like obviously is that like that, obviously like he's just like stuff like that. I don't know.
Speaker 1:Kevin, if you're listening to this, when you listen to this, you might want to tone down the licking, which is just a very weird thing to say on the air. So, all right, moving on to really what we came here for besides that. So, if you think of my idiosyncrasy, feel free to share it before this is over. Okay, and you can obviously tell me later. So you are reading a book and I would love to hear your opinion on it. So tell us what book you're reading and who the author is.
Speaker 2:It's The Speed of Trust by Stephen Covey. Stephen Covey.
Speaker 1:Stephen.
Speaker 2:Covey Yeah, And it's a really good book because it's like you can definitely apply it to a lot of things And it kind of gives you a lot to think about. Yeah, basically.
Speaker 1:Can you give us maybe your top couple takeaways, just real quick?
Speaker 2:Yeah, well, that made me read. Talk loud just because you have this low deep teenager, manly voice. It's just like four cores of credibility. So, like walking your talk, you know your intent on stuff, your capabilities to making sure when you do set goals and stuff and you say you're going to do something, just making sure you're actually capable to do it, so it's realistic and actually achievable.
Speaker 1:You're not making kind of empty promises maybe.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and then just your track record.
Speaker 1:So yeah, So when I say things like I brought you into this world, I can take you out, That really isn't like well, I guess I am capable, but I wouldn't do it.
Speaker 2:We're going to jail And, like your reputation is known and your credibility will proceed. So, like you know, your credibility for things people will think about like okay, well, what does he normally do this Or is this like a first time? you know you look at your track record and how rules cannot take the place of character, so how you guys can restrict me, but doesn't necessarily mean I'm going to follow those rules. I can break those rules, but if I have good character, then I can, then I won't need the rules necessarily.
Speaker 1:That's it right there. Ladies and gentlemen, we are a work in progress for parenting, but one of the things we talk about with all the boys and that we've talked about with Austin is we can parent you with rules or relationships. We prefer relationship where there's high trust. That's really how God parents us. Even though there's guidelines to living a Christian life, he the whole intention is that we have relationship with him, and he doesn't want to be a Christian. We have relationship with him and he doesn't want to see us break off from that, and so when we experience pain or discomfort in our choices, a lot of times it's just being separated from God and his wisdom, and so that's kind of the same thing we want for you, right? Yeah, yeah, well, thanks for hanging in there with Dad and I, because we know that we are far from perfect parents and we're making a lot of mistakes, but we're working on it And not exactly making it easy.
Speaker 1:You're not No Truth. How do the teenagers say it True that So?
Speaker 2:30 years ago.
Speaker 1:Oh, how do you say it now?
Speaker 2:Stop trying.
Speaker 1:Stop trying. Okay, cool factor gone.
Speaker 2:Hang on, there we go.
Speaker 1:Dad never uses the buttons. He's not going to let me sit in this chair anymore. Okay, austin, any final thoughts for the listeners. We're talking, i mean, you know the podcast is about uncommon freedom, which is, you know, really working towards the best version of yourself and realize that you're not, and realizing that you have a calling and a potential in the world and that we can all you know, live up to that by trying to make the world a better place and growing ourselves. I see that in you a lot. So, even though you take some steps backwards, you tend to always take another step forward, and I see you contending for what matters to you, in athletics and in school and with relationships, and I'm really proud to be your mom. So anything else you want to share before we sign off?
Speaker 2:No, I think that's it.
Speaker 1:All right, thanks, buddy. Okay, and we're going to wrap up. You guys, if you don't mind, giving us a five star review, we would love that and appreciate it, and feel free to share this podcast with someone else. So thanks for listening to the uncommon freedom show. We believe that freedom isn't man's invention. It was created by God. You can connect with us at beckandcabcom for more resources to learn biblical principles, essential disciplines and winning habits that help, once average people lead the life they want instead of accept the life they were given.